At some point in your past, you may have been involved with someone who shared your feelings and outlook.  The relationship felt very promising, but eventually it foundered.  You may have wondered if you were partly responsible.  You probably felt frustration, longing, and a sense of loss.  Most of us have been there.

Rob Phillips, MA, Licensed Professional Counselor, presents a very special three-part workshop that will help us explore the dynamic we bring to a relationship that can build or destroy it. He will describe attachment theory - which is, in his words, "the way you were parented as a child predicts the way you love as an adult."

By learning your attachment style, you can learn what attitudes and behaviors might be blocking you from finding a satisfying, intimate relatinoship when you encounter someone special in your life. Learn how to override these subtly sabotaging attitudes and behaviors and to develop new ones that will lead to happier outcomes.  Discover your partner's revealing behavioral and verbal clues.  Learn how to model successful attitudes and means of communicating in a relationship.

The principles developed for this workshop are the result of Rob Phillips' 12 years of clinical experience and his study of over 40 years of scientific research in the area of emotional bonding.  The lecture, 70-page workbook and materials are designed as self-help tools for seeking a satisfying romantic relationship.  These same principles can be applied to business and family relationships and platonic friendships as well.

When: Sundays, 3:00pm -5:00pm, February 13, 20 & 27.  Register by February 1

Where:  Parish Hall, under the church

Cost: $20 per sessions, includes 70-page workbook; $50 for three sessions, if paid at first session

RSVP: Kathy Murphy - Remember - please register by February 1.  If you miss the deadline call to see if there is still room.

Rob Phillips, MA, L.P.C., gave us the tools to discover the styles of attachment based upon early parental bonding, and to better identify our own style and those of others, as well as to work on the underlying attitudes and mind-sets that sabotage the development of healthy relationships.

Using slides, lectures, workbooks, and discussion, Rob held our rapt attention.  At the middle lecture of the series we all stayed an extra hour to discuss our findings about ourselves as a result of testing and the theories behind it.

We learned that there are four styles of attachment: secure, anxious, detached dismissive and detached fearful.

From there we were given tools through written self-examination, graph analysis and journaling to work toward overcoming the underlying negative impulses that prevent healthy attachment.

For those who missed his workshop series due to scheduling, and for those who did attend and want to explore their attachment styles further or would like counseling on specific issues, Rob can be reached by phone at 503-238-9755 and email.

Previous participants may call Kathy Murphy if you are interested in one 3 hours follow-up session with Rob.