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I recommend both the Hurt Party and the Unfaithful Party write down their ideas of what should be addressed in counseling.

Issues, Objectives & Goals for dealing with the aftermath of an Affair

1)  Dealing with Emotions:

a) coping, self-care, containment, normalizing

b) empathy, expectations

2)  Conditions around Staying or Leaving

3) Examining Assumptions about how to move ahead

4) Looking at Influences from Past History (family of origin, or partner)

5)  Rebuilding Relationship

            a) taking responsibility for where you are today

  b)  repairing trust – give and take

            c)  sharing intimate thoughts

            d)  separate past from present, prevent contamination

            e)  develop warmth and intimacy

            f)  new exploration & growth together

6)  Rules for Talking about Affair

7)  Managing Suspicions

8)  Dealing with Obsessive Thoughts

 9)  Working Through Guilt

10)  Having Sex Now

11)  Issues that Predated the Affair

12)  What about Forgiveness? 

13)  What’s your Vision of Where the Relationship will go? 

Free copy of Gottman's "7 Principles" with Initial Interview

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